FUCK!
Damnit! Alright. Here's the situation. I am supposed to go to Hawaii with my family in a little over a week. We are to be gone for 8 days.
Well, you know how I feel about traveling with my family anyways. Add to that the fact that I have a VERY limited time with K, and I don't know if she wants to try long distance or not.
Folks, I don't want to go. I tried to move my flight home earlier by several days (a good compromise), but that would cost me around 500 dollars, because the mother fucking airlines are ass raping me. I can't cancel the flight, because my dad would lose all the money he spent on the flight, and be really pissed.
So now, it looks like my ONLY chance is to ask the airline to credit the flight (minus 100 dollars) to my dad, and he could use it for a later flight. I could only hope that he's planning on going somewhere in the next year. Regardless, he is going to be pissed if I decide not to go.
He actually called my plan to move my flight "stupid", which really pissed me off. I have a fucking month left with this girl, and I'm not jumping to any conclusions here, but she COULD be really special. If spending more time with her increases the chances that she'll want a long distance relationship, then fuck Hawaii, I don't care about that. Trips come and go, chances at being happy with someone just go.
So... now I have no idea what to do. Is it worth not going at all? To be honest, I dread trips with my family, even if it is Hawaii. I have 28 days left with this girl, and a trip to Hawaii would cut it down to 20. Am I being unreasonable here? I really don't know, mainly because I don't know what she's thinking...
My GUT is telling me to skip the trip. If there's a way to get out of it, without costing anyone a lot of money - I think I need to do it. I'm going to talk to my mom about it tomorrow... she's on my side (thank God).
Damnit! Alright. Here's the situation. I am supposed to go to Hawaii with my family in a little over a week. We are to be gone for 8 days.
Well, you know how I feel about traveling with my family anyways. Add to that the fact that I have a VERY limited time with K, and I don't know if she wants to try long distance or not.
Folks, I don't want to go. I tried to move my flight home earlier by several days (a good compromise), but that would cost me around 500 dollars, because the mother fucking airlines are ass raping me. I can't cancel the flight, because my dad would lose all the money he spent on the flight, and be really pissed.
So now, it looks like my ONLY chance is to ask the airline to credit the flight (minus 100 dollars) to my dad, and he could use it for a later flight. I could only hope that he's planning on going somewhere in the next year. Regardless, he is going to be pissed if I decide not to go.
He actually called my plan to move my flight "stupid", which really pissed me off. I have a fucking month left with this girl, and I'm not jumping to any conclusions here, but she COULD be really special. If spending more time with her increases the chances that she'll want a long distance relationship, then fuck Hawaii, I don't care about that. Trips come and go, chances at being happy with someone just go.
So... now I have no idea what to do. Is it worth not going at all? To be honest, I dread trips with my family, even if it is Hawaii. I have 28 days left with this girl, and a trip to Hawaii would cut it down to 20. Am I being unreasonable here? I really don't know, mainly because I don't know what she's thinking...
My GUT is telling me to skip the trip. If there's a way to get out of it, without costing anyone a lot of money - I think I need to do it. I'm going to talk to my mom about it tomorrow... she's on my side (thank God).
posted by Composer at 11:11 PM
9 Comments:
I hit the "next blog" button and it was you.
Go to Hawaii. Find a reason to enjoy that time with your family.
Life is precious -
If SHE is the one, she'll still be the one when you get back.
Ok. So I've put some thought into this....feel flattered ;)
LOL, anyways. Dude, go. Go on the trip. It will do you good. And this commenter above I agree with, if she IS the one, she'll still be THE one when you get back.
While I am a total girl in that I think from my heart, I think by you trying to dedicate every waking moment with this girl, it may back fire on you. Make you too vulnerable. Go on your trip. Try to enjoy it.
When you get back I think you will have a better or at least really good feel for where things should be at with this girl
GL with your decision! Keep us posted!! *hugs*
Thanks to both of you for your input. I've figured out that I can successfully credit the flight to my dad, and that he does seem to understand a bit more now (I think mom talked to him).
I'm going to decide what to do within the week...
Don't be stupid man. Go to Hawaii.
Just go. It's not worth pissing your family off and you'll have a good time.
Don't be silly here. If she's your lady, then she'll understand and she'll want to make a long distance thing with you..otherwise.
.. fuck her.
Be thankful your going to Hawaii and call it a day... besides, I'm sure there's plenty of hotties down there!
Don't be whipped yet buddy!
*Big hugs and kisses*
Ok...something else to think about...
Is it going to freak her out that you cancel a long planned family trip to HAWAII to stay w/ her????
With as new as your relationship is, I just wonder how she will react to your decision....like Breezy said, I'm not sure you want to be or at least want to *show* her you are so whipped just yet. :)
breeze - easier said than done... but I appreciate your honesty. I am not, have never been, and never will be whipped, though.
EE - I understand, and have thought about this - a good point.
I can honestly say that if I were in your places, I would be saying the same thing. Go. It's HAWAII, man. How many chances do you have to go there?
Were the circumstances different, I would not be considering this.
- If I felt more comfortable in the relationship
- If I was not moving in less than a month
- If we'd been dating for longer
To be honest, I feel like opportunities - BIG opportunities - have slipped through my fingers in the past. Maybe if I take this one more seriously (my subconscious screams at me), this one won't.
Hopefully that gives you a bit more of an insight into my decision making process. Add to that the fact that I see my family plenty already, they're cool with it (after talking today), I've been to Hawaii before and go on vacations with the family all the time, and I can use the money to fly home more often from grad school, it doesn't seem so crazy to me.
The decision is not made, and won't be for several days, which I still have.
And something that stuck in my mind as well as I just re-read this is you said your GUT is telling you to skip the trip. I whole heartedly think that some of the best decisions in my life have been made by following my gut.
Oh and please don't think I was trying to talk you out OF or INTO anything, just giving an opinion and outsiders view, which is not much of anything considering you don't know me really, lol.
Honestly, good luck. And can't wait to hear what you decide to do. I think it's truly great too that your mom is backing you. :)
I have a few thoughts- this coming from the woman who is chucking it all to move to MT. So, be careful...take her to Hawaii.
Okay, pn pne hand, I really think if she is the one, she will be the one when you get back. on the other hand it would be great to stay with her because you like her. On the other hand, if you don't know how she feels about long distance with you, then why give up Hawaii for a girl who may be just enjoying a summer fling- she knows you are gone in 28 days, right? On the other hand, it is important to follow your gut.
So that is a BUNCH of hands- so see if you can figure out how to take her to Hawaii. Why the fuck not?
I think the point I was trying to make that you're blowing off your family... kinda lame.
They will always be there for you and afforded you this opportunity. If for no other reason than that, you should go. My two cents...
If you can take "K", that would be cool and everyone wins...
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