RAMBLING, PROBABLY
I was talking with K on the phone tonight and I asked her what is in store for her once her musical ends here. Her family is moving to Pennsylvania, and she's not moving with them. She said that she plans to audition for work in the area, and also in San Diego, Chicago and New York.
She asked me what I plan to do when my masters program is completed in 2 years. I thought about it for a long time. Honestly, I replied, it's going to depend a lot on whether I'm seeing someone serious at the time. That would be a good time to relocate to be with someone. I wasn't talking about her, per se. If not, I'll probably move home.
I actually surprised myself. I love my work. A lot. I expected to be the kind of person who would move anywhere for "the job" where I got to do what I wanted. If the girl comes, great. If not, screw her. But I guess my perspective is changing.
In any case, I don't know what her plans mean, as far as us having a chance. It's mind boggling how difficult it is to form a serious relationship at an age where everyone is moving around, going to school, looking for work. You really have to be completely into someone to persevere through those sorts of complications.
To be honest with myself and you all, chances seem slim that this is really going to work against this many odds. It doesn't mean I won't try, but, in my experience, strong, self motivated women are quick to bail out of relationships if all the factors aren't right for their life and career.
She hasn't given any indication that this won't work so far, but I'm deciding to remain emotionally guarded (that being a step back from cautiously optomistic... haha.. ha.. mm..), considering the circumstances.
...I'm just realizing that I just rambled about this for quite a while there... sorry folks.
I was talking with K on the phone tonight and I asked her what is in store for her once her musical ends here. Her family is moving to Pennsylvania, and she's not moving with them. She said that she plans to audition for work in the area, and also in San Diego, Chicago and New York.
She asked me what I plan to do when my masters program is completed in 2 years. I thought about it for a long time. Honestly, I replied, it's going to depend a lot on whether I'm seeing someone serious at the time. That would be a good time to relocate to be with someone. I wasn't talking about her, per se. If not, I'll probably move home.
I actually surprised myself. I love my work. A lot. I expected to be the kind of person who would move anywhere for "the job" where I got to do what I wanted. If the girl comes, great. If not, screw her. But I guess my perspective is changing.
In any case, I don't know what her plans mean, as far as us having a chance. It's mind boggling how difficult it is to form a serious relationship at an age where everyone is moving around, going to school, looking for work. You really have to be completely into someone to persevere through those sorts of complications.
To be honest with myself and you all, chances seem slim that this is really going to work against this many odds. It doesn't mean I won't try, but, in my experience, strong, self motivated women are quick to bail out of relationships if all the factors aren't right for their life and career.
She hasn't given any indication that this won't work so far, but I'm deciding to remain emotionally guarded (that being a step back from cautiously optomistic... haha.. ha.. mm..), considering the circumstances.
...I'm just realizing that I just rambled about this for quite a while there... sorry folks.
posted by Composer at 9:58 PM
5 Comments:
Several things grabbed my attention when I read this...
"It's mind boggling how difficult it is to form a serious relationship at an age where everyone is moving around, going to school, looking for work. You really have to be completely into someone to persevere through those sorts of complications."
It so totally is. I've been w/ my husband since high school (choke....15years, yikes) and the lengths we had to go through to stay together was *exceedingly* difficult. I look back at some of the challenges we had to overcome and it truly is amazing we are still together. Bc man, it was TOUGH.
And this too:
"...in my experience, strong, self motivated women are quick to bail out of relationships if all the factors aren't right for their life and career"
Before I even read you say that I was thinking the same thing...
You have such an awesome head on your shoulders. It rocks. I'm interested in how things play out for you...
:)
EE - Thanks so much for your thoughts and kind words... I'm so glad you visit.
I'm curious EE. Do you feel like you or your husband sacrificed anything by staying together? Did either of you ever pass up any job or school opportunities to be with each other? Any regrets?
My husband would shoot me in the foot for saying this probably...
No. I don't think *he* sacrificed anything. I dropped out of school to follow him numerous places. He loved to try new things, new adventures....and numerous times it came up that I needed to make a decision whether I wanted to remain w/ him. And one time I almost didn't go with him. But in the end, I went where he wanted to go, moved around here and there, did some wonderful things that *I* normally wouldn't have tried or thought of doing on my own.
And we remain together today. I am a lot more grounded these days. He has tried over the past several years to get me to move to follow more of his 'dreams'. And I just can't. Not with the amount of animals I have accumulated and having two kids. My roots are deeply planted. LOL
So yes, while I do think I made several sacrifices for him, to be w/ him...in the long run it worked out. I did finish school, have an associates in two different fields. We just followed his dreams first is all.
And no. I don't have any regrets that I did what I did. It resulted in 15 (mostly) wonderful years with the person I love. And like I said, I did end up getting finishing school. I do know though that if I hadn't been willing to put my dreams and wants aside on several occasions I'm not sure we would be together still...
Thanks for sharing... I find that very helpful.
You, dearheart, are very welcome. :)
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