AN INTERESTING EVENING
In some ways good and some ways bad.
K and I had lunch/dinner out, which was a pleasant change from our normal schedule. We normally have to hang out late because of her show and 2nd job. After that we walked over to a coffee shop, where we ran into C. I'm not a very vindictive person, but I'm going to admit that it was pretty sweet to get to introduce C to K as I was holding her hand. Suck on it, C.
She went to her show and then came over afterwards to spend the night. She was feeling extra feisty and we wrestled around for a while. As we were lying in bed after, she accidentally refered to herself as my girlfriend. I shot her a look, as to say "really?" and she turned red and said, "I'm really embarrassed now." I don't particularly know what this means, but I don't think it's bad. I didn't push it though, I've been feeling a lot more comfortable by taking things slow. It did put a big dumb grin on my face, though.
So then it happened. ...sigh... my friend dropped by with the new girl he's dating. By this point, K and I were a bit tipsy. K has a strong personality. My friend has a strong personality. I should have seen it coming.
My friend makes an off color joke, and I shot him a quick look, "maybe not a good idea" sort of look. I think it backfired though, because he just became more vocal. Not very cool. So we all go to sit down, K and friend engage in conversation about TV shows they used to watch as kids, things seem fine... for the most part... At some point musical theatre came up, and friend made a comment about how he liked the way theatre is "over-acted". He meant well, but K took offense. Then friend took offense to K taking offense. It went downhill from there. They stopped at an all out shout fest, but only because friend promptly got up and left. It was
A W K W A R D.
What it came down to is this. Whether he meant well or not, he should have apologized for hurting her feelings. He didn't need to revoke what he said, but he should have said he was sorry for hurting her feelings/offending her. He's entitled to his opinion, but if it's going to offend someone, he should keep it to himself, especially when this was only the second time he'd met K (and the first time they talked for more than 30 seconds).
Luckily, things smoothed over just fine when he left. I think part of her having a strong personality is that she is used to argument and confrontation, and probably gets over this stuff pretty easily. Honestly, I am not used to it. I pick my battles, and avoid the small shit. (I'm still trying to figure out whether this is healthy or not). In any case, he called today and apologized, and asked for a chance to apologize to her in person, which is great (and if you'd been there, you'd understand: he needs to).
Other than that, the night was great, and the most sleep either of us has gotten with each other... maybe we're getting used to it. Good things. Good things.
In some ways good and some ways bad.
K and I had lunch/dinner out, which was a pleasant change from our normal schedule. We normally have to hang out late because of her show and 2nd job. After that we walked over to a coffee shop, where we ran into C. I'm not a very vindictive person, but I'm going to admit that it was pretty sweet to get to introduce C to K as I was holding her hand. Suck on it, C.
She went to her show and then came over afterwards to spend the night. She was feeling extra feisty and we wrestled around for a while. As we were lying in bed after, she accidentally refered to herself as my girlfriend. I shot her a look, as to say "really?" and she turned red and said, "I'm really embarrassed now." I don't particularly know what this means, but I don't think it's bad. I didn't push it though, I've been feeling a lot more comfortable by taking things slow. It did put a big dumb grin on my face, though.
So then it happened. ...sigh... my friend dropped by with the new girl he's dating. By this point, K and I were a bit tipsy. K has a strong personality. My friend has a strong personality. I should have seen it coming.
My friend makes an off color joke, and I shot him a quick look, "maybe not a good idea" sort of look. I think it backfired though, because he just became more vocal. Not very cool. So we all go to sit down, K and friend engage in conversation about TV shows they used to watch as kids, things seem fine... for the most part... At some point musical theatre came up, and friend made a comment about how he liked the way theatre is "over-acted". He meant well, but K took offense. Then friend took offense to K taking offense. It went downhill from there. They stopped at an all out shout fest, but only because friend promptly got up and left. It was
A W K W A R D.
What it came down to is this. Whether he meant well or not, he should have apologized for hurting her feelings. He didn't need to revoke what he said, but he should have said he was sorry for hurting her feelings/offending her. He's entitled to his opinion, but if it's going to offend someone, he should keep it to himself, especially when this was only the second time he'd met K (and the first time they talked for more than 30 seconds).
Luckily, things smoothed over just fine when he left. I think part of her having a strong personality is that she is used to argument and confrontation, and probably gets over this stuff pretty easily. Honestly, I am not used to it. I pick my battles, and avoid the small shit. (I'm still trying to figure out whether this is healthy or not). In any case, he called today and apologized, and asked for a chance to apologize to her in person, which is great (and if you'd been there, you'd understand: he needs to).
Other than that, the night was great, and the most sleep either of us has gotten with each other... maybe we're getting used to it. Good things. Good things.
posted by Composer at 4:20 PM
4 Comments:
Oh wow...yes awkward. I'm glad you and K were able to salvage the night. And that your friend is willing and wanting to appologize to her. Good.
You and I have similar personalities. I don't rock the boat anymore than I have to. I pick my battles and only do so when it seems very important. I think sometimes I get stepped on bc of it, but in most cases I would rather a bit of that than living in constant conflict. I avoid confrontation...so not me.
Well, lol, enough about me! I had to smile at K referring to herself as your girlfriend...ahhhh, how sweet it THAT!? :)
See, I'm the strong personality type. Also used to "heated discussions", not necessarily confrontation. But as a former pre-law major, I'm fair pretty well in debates.
It is also because I'm an open and honest person, so if I have something to say, most of the time you will hear about it. Although, over the years, you develop a sense of "cooth" with everything. Which then goes out the window with drinking :-)
I'm glad you're friend decided to apologize to K. It's a smart move, it is important for everyone to get along, believe me on that!
BTW... K's a little hottie honey, good for you! :-)
EE - Yea, I think we do have similar personalities! I think sometimes people mistake it for being weak, but I just hate arguing about everything all the time.
Breeze - despite what I just said, I have to admit that I appreciate people like you. If you're able to have a heated debate with someone one minute, and then go back to being fine 30 seconds later, I respect that... it's harder for me to cool down once I finally do get "heated".
And thanks for the compliment on the lady... she is pretty damn cute!
soounds like it was an awkward expereince all the way around but at least apologies were finally exchanged, better late than ever! (and it's a good idea to not sweat the small stuff!)
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