COMBATIVE GIRLS

So I was recently chatting with a friend from back home while in Baltimore. She had pretty obviously been interested in me at one point last year. I was somewhat interested as well, and we hung out in groups a few times. She's cute, a good musician, funny... well...

First time - She tried too hard. She talked the entire time, and throughout most of the movie. While some of it was funny, it got old pretty fast.

Second time - She didn't talk to me at all. I felt like she was mad at me.

So, obviously I didn't see it going anywhere. Luckily, I hadn't led her on, and I simply moved on.

Well. We're chatting, and for some reason she brings up that short period where we were hanging out. She says that I shot her down. I'm a bit taken back... and all I can muster is, "well, I had a lot of things going on then." Before I can finish, she says, "excuses, excuses."

Huh? It felt like she'd been holding that in for over a year and was just looking to get it out.

I've gone through similar experiences very recently with two other girls. Girls who confronted me about the fact that I'm not interested in them.

First was KC's full night argument about the fact that I held her hand once. Sigh. Then this girl. Then a girl from back home I went to a movie with. I never kissed even kissed any of these girls.

What the HELL?

I will NEVER understand how anyone could think this is going to solve anything. I will never feel bad about the fact that I'm not interested in someone emotionally. That's the way the world works. It sucks, but it's not my fault. It's not first love's fault that she didn't love me back. Why would I be mad at her about that? No one can help the way they feel.

Are they trying to make me feel bad? Are they expecting an apology? Do they want to "win" a moral victory? Do they think that confronting me will make me like them? I just don't understand what they think they will gain.

If I could look past all the things that K did to hurt me and still try to be her friend. If I could look past the ...past and not look to argue with her about it, why the hell do these girls think they can yell at me?

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I was recently talking to KC about her new boyfriend. They were together after a week of dating, and two weeks after that are saying 'I love you' to one another. I think my brain just EXPLODED.

...anyway, she said, "are you ok with us dating?", to which I replied, "why wouldn't I be?" She says, "because of what happened between us." Folks, I can't stress this enough. Nothing happened. I held back an outburst of laughter, looked her straight in the eyes and said, "I'll manage."

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How do I keep ending up with these kinds of girls? My guess - I'm looking for a woman, but girls keep finding me.