A LITTLE MORE HINDSIGHT
*this is me, basically, thinking "out loud" about my physical issues with K. I feel comfortable talking about it here, and I need to get these things off my chest. However, if you think that *somewhat detailed* sexual info will offend you, then I encourage you to not read this post.
So I've been thinking more about the physical foreplay things that's kinda been bothering me. Here's what I've come up with.
- In past relationships, I've dated girls who were *very* easy to get off. Not only did they want it all the time, they also LOVED it. I could go from nothing to "going all out" almost instantly, and it was fine. I got it whenever I wanted it. I didn't realize it at the time, but lately I've come to realize that that is not really the norm.
- I am a horny man. Plain and simple, I want it all the time. I've gotten off *many* times in one night.
- I think that K is not as horny as I am, and she also needs longer to get prepped (like a lot of women do). I think the argument that happened today was a result of my frustration at not being able to please her, and a lack of ability to practice to get better. I think she's frustrated that I want it all the time, and that my "pacing" is different than what she needs.
*this is me, basically, thinking "out loud" about my physical issues with K. I feel comfortable talking about it here, and I need to get these things off my chest. However, if you think that *somewhat detailed* sexual info will offend you, then I encourage you to not read this post.
So I've been thinking more about the physical foreplay things that's kinda been bothering me. Here's what I've come up with.
- In past relationships, I've dated girls who were *very* easy to get off. Not only did they want it all the time, they also LOVED it. I could go from nothing to "going all out" almost instantly, and it was fine. I got it whenever I wanted it. I didn't realize it at the time, but lately I've come to realize that that is not really the norm.
- I am a horny man. Plain and simple, I want it all the time. I've gotten off *many* times in one night.
- I think that K is not as horny as I am, and she also needs longer to get prepped (like a lot of women do). I think the argument that happened today was a result of my frustration at not being able to please her, and a lack of ability to practice to get better. I think she's frustrated that I want it all the time, and that my "pacing" is different than what she needs.
This is how I feel with a little more time to look at this situation. I think what we really need is communication, but I think that I need to settle down and let her initiate more. In the end, I need to not let this rock my self-confidence so much. Frankly, she's not awesome at foreplay either, and I don't think any less of her for that.
Communication people. That's the key. Wish me luck.
posted by Composer at 2:38 PM
4 Comments:
Okay...I'm going to say this as gently as I can because I *do not* want to offend you or step on any toes.
Sexual compatibility is HUGE. As in *H-U-G-E* in my book. You can feel like you have the best relationship in the world...but if that part is lacking, the relationship will always somehow lack and go back to 'that' as an issue.
I *love* sex. And always have. At points in my marriage when my sex drive has lacked it has taken a toll on my marriage a bit. And I would hate to say that sex is *everything* or what a relationship is based off of. Bc it isn't. And *shouldn't. BUT it does have to be there.
So. Take this information with a grain of salt. It may not apply to you *at all*. I'm definately not implying anything.
Just throwing it out there.
:)
I appreciate it EE, and you're not stepping on my toes at all.. thanks for your advice. It's something to think about.
I agree with EE. There's something to be said for clicking right off the bat. All the other shit should come later down the road.
For the record, I'm certain that if you kiss me behind my right ear all you need is 1.3 seconds and I'm good. And I'm telling you that now (and I don't even *know* you). It's also about maturity and comfortability.
Also when I'm absolutely hammered, it's harder to get off, 3.5 seconds :-)
Seriously, Dude it happens, she definately needs to communicate to you what she needs. It never hurts, just don't have her repeat it umpteen times.
Love ya C... Period!
Breeze - I have taken note. How far away am I living from you? he he he... ok, I'll be good.
Thanks for your thoughts -
I agree about clicking right off the bat... there's a lot to be said for that. It's especially tough when you've had that in the past, then have to work for it...
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