I DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
Story time.
I went out to dinner tonight with blind date girl and a bunch of her friends. They are all opera singers. Drama abounds.
Two of the girls in particular are especially negative. Most of this stems from their obvious insecurity regarding their appearance and the fact that they don't have a boyfriend. All insecure girls want a boyfriend. It's a fact.
One of the girls hits on me constantly, which has been going on since I met her. She knows I'm dating blind date girl (though she doesn't know that neither of us are too serious about it). She, fairly often, misdirects her sexual frustration and insecurity towards others in the form of anger.
Well, tonight she was driving blind date girl, myself, and the other negative girl back from dinner. I was trying to help her get to my place from the touristy area, and told her to turn on some road. After she did, blind date girl reminded me she still needed to run by the school to pick up some stuff. So, I tell her to turn back the way we were heading.
At that moment she snaps at me "yeah, I know my way around, I've been living here a long time." I, without thinking, reply, "what? I was just trying to h..." she interupts me to say "you're just being a total guy and backseat driving." and then calls me an asshole.
I'm not making this up.
So, for the next 10 minutes I'm thinking to myself, "what in the hell just happened?" I just look at blind date girl, sitting in the back with me, and she looks back, as to say, "please just don't say anything." It was actually quite cute... but she didn't have anything to worry about. Why? Because I don't sweat the small stuff.
I could have argued with her all night about the fact that I was only trying to help, and that a simple "I know where we are, don't worry about it" would have been fine. That it's riciculous to make people feel stupid or jerky over such things. But it wouldn't have worked. I would have gotten sucked into her negativity spiral and spent all night being pissed off. Instead, I abstained from a fight with someone I don't care about and got out of the situation as quickly as possible.
I'm realizing that there is, in fact a lot of negativity around me here. Both in my group of friends, and these other groups I occasionally hang out with. I don't want it. I don't need it. I don't know these people well enough or long enough to let them bring me down with their bad energy.
I've decided I'm just not going to do it anymore. I fully intend to stay home on the weekend evenings as opposed to going out with people that make me sad/angry/frustrated. I'm a happy person on my own, and I don't need anyone to qualify me.
Long story short, they can suck my ass. :)
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I had a good talk with blind date girl yesterday about where we stand. She now knows everything about K, and that I don't want a relationship now. She said the same, but I'm not entirely sure I believe her. We'll see about that... give it some time.
Either way, it was enough to make me feel better about the situation... then we had some sex. I think I'm improving my game, by the way.
Story time.
I went out to dinner tonight with blind date girl and a bunch of her friends. They are all opera singers. Drama abounds.
Two of the girls in particular are especially negative. Most of this stems from their obvious insecurity regarding their appearance and the fact that they don't have a boyfriend. All insecure girls want a boyfriend. It's a fact.
One of the girls hits on me constantly, which has been going on since I met her. She knows I'm dating blind date girl (though she doesn't know that neither of us are too serious about it). She, fairly often, misdirects her sexual frustration and insecurity towards others in the form of anger.
Well, tonight she was driving blind date girl, myself, and the other negative girl back from dinner. I was trying to help her get to my place from the touristy area, and told her to turn on some road. After she did, blind date girl reminded me she still needed to run by the school to pick up some stuff. So, I tell her to turn back the way we were heading.
At that moment she snaps at me "yeah, I know my way around, I've been living here a long time." I, without thinking, reply, "what? I was just trying to h..." she interupts me to say "you're just being a total guy and backseat driving." and then calls me an asshole.
I'm not making this up.
So, for the next 10 minutes I'm thinking to myself, "what in the hell just happened?" I just look at blind date girl, sitting in the back with me, and she looks back, as to say, "please just don't say anything." It was actually quite cute... but she didn't have anything to worry about. Why? Because I don't sweat the small stuff.
I could have argued with her all night about the fact that I was only trying to help, and that a simple "I know where we are, don't worry about it" would have been fine. That it's riciculous to make people feel stupid or jerky over such things. But it wouldn't have worked. I would have gotten sucked into her negativity spiral and spent all night being pissed off. Instead, I abstained from a fight with someone I don't care about and got out of the situation as quickly as possible.
I'm realizing that there is, in fact a lot of negativity around me here. Both in my group of friends, and these other groups I occasionally hang out with. I don't want it. I don't need it. I don't know these people well enough or long enough to let them bring me down with their bad energy.
I've decided I'm just not going to do it anymore. I fully intend to stay home on the weekend evenings as opposed to going out with people that make me sad/angry/frustrated. I'm a happy person on my own, and I don't need anyone to qualify me.
Long story short, they can suck my ass. :)
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I had a good talk with blind date girl yesterday about where we stand. She now knows everything about K, and that I don't want a relationship now. She said the same, but I'm not entirely sure I believe her. We'll see about that... give it some time.
Either way, it was enough to make me feel better about the situation... then we had some sex. I think I'm improving my game, by the way.
posted by Composer at 10:53 PM
3 Comments:
I think that's one of many reasons that I stay home most of the weekend. My closes friends are far from where I am, and miss them every day. Making new friends can be really frustated sometimes...
and I WON'T STAY COOL if someone say something mean to me.
I just can't.
But your behavior demostrated a lot about you.
I stay home too. it's safer. LOL
Yeah, dearheart, you did the right thing by choosing to ignore the chick. And I think you have come to a good decision. If you aren't going to have fun going out w/ that bunch, don't torture yourself over it. It's not worth it.
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