I'm sorry y'all... I have no excuse, but here's a few anyway.
For starters, I went home over the weekend, and aside from being really busy with friends and family, my parents have a terrible internet connection. It's all I can do to wait 5 minutes for my e-mail to load.
Also, things with Southern Belle remain unresolved, and I don't know about you, but I have a hard time writing about other things when I have one big thing on my mind.
Well, for those wondering, I DID have a conversation with her about it. Last night actually (I just got home yesterday). I told her that I respect her more than she knows, I told her that I think girls like her are one in a million, I told her that I would never push her to do anything she wouldn't want to do. BUT. I told her I just think that intimacy is a part of an adult relationship, and that it's something I need.
As suspected, she stayed firm that she had boundaries and didn't want them crossed. No sex. No foreplay. Nothing.
What to do? I told her that I need more time. I'm not ready to break up with a wonderful girl just yet. We're going to keep things at dating for a while and I'm going to see if I can make it work.
My concern is that this is leading her on, but I'm really giving this a shot... and I feel better that she knows exactly what's on my mind and at least understands (and doesn't think I'm a bastard), even if she can't see things from my perspective.
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In any case, I missed you guys! I'll be around to your blogs soon!
posted by Composer at 11:17 AM
8 Comments:
Welcome back!!!!! And I can't wait for you to stop by; I've missed your wit!
And I'm glad you talked to Southern Belle tho it sounds like it could've been better. Hang in there! And a trip home! Lucky you!
Are you telling us this girl expects to only peck on the lips once in awhile, until she's married? God help her husband on their wedding night, she'll end up locked in a bedroom.
Don't get me wrong, if she wants to stay a virgin, great, but to say nothing is going to happen, seems...odd!
I have to wonder about what Lilth said. It strikes me as odd a chick that would save themselves for marriage. I just think sexuality is SUCH an important part of a relationship. And not everyone is sexually compatible. You know???? And if I fall in love with someone, I have doubts about it's longevity if we aren't compatible *sexually* as well.
And if you wait for marriage...how do you know?!?!?!
AND if you wait for EVERYTHING, how....IDK. I have concerns. Lilith hit home for me. I'm 'concerned'.
But I'm glad you were able to get home. I'm super happy you had the talk w/ Southern Belle. Being up front shows you are honorable AND won't catch her off guard. She knows where you are coming from and things you are struggling with.
Welcome back! :)
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Uh. That came out wrong. LMAO!
I meant you have to take my opinion with a grain of salt. Doh.
And this is just 'me'. Obviously I come at this fairly open minded and a very sexually oriented person. LOL
Thanks Professy! My wit, huh? It's sharp like a rusty spoon...
Lilith - Yeah... I couldn't agree more. I'm all for people keeping the V-card if they want. But.. nothing?
EE - You sound like me all this last week. And besides, I think you and I are pretty much on the same page sexually (like, I NEED it. Often). Missed you!
Come out, come out, where ever you are! (I miss ya!)
No shit.....dude! Missing you TONS. :(
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